Finding Your Freedom
People often ask me “what does finding your freedom mean? What is it all about? “ There isn’t a direct answer to this question. Freedom means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. It could mean being free from the judgments of others. It could mean living your life according to how you would like to live it, free of worrying what others may think, do, say, or not say about it. It could mean being free of false limiting beliefs that were instilled upon you in your childhood, your life experiences, assumed failures that perhaps have determined some choices you have made in your life. Choices that seem safe but leave you feeling trapped. Afraid to go for that job, career, relationship. Because somewhere along the line, someone said something discouraging. Something happened and things didn’t go “well”. Or maybe, it was you that made a mistake.
What if none of that mattered? What if you owned your mistake and actually forgave yourself for making one? After all, we are human beings. Mistakes are a part of life. It’s how we learn and grow and figure out our paths. It is no secret, and I am not the first to say, that fear is the number one thing that holds us back. It makes sense to me that it would be. Nobody wants to risk getting hurt. Nobody wants to fail or be judged or scrutinized. We want to stay safe and appear well put together and mix in with our people. We want to be the same as our tribe and stay with our tribe. We need that for survival. But what if we went against some of our inherent survival mechanisms? What if we allowed ourselves to be vulnerable to risks and perceived failures, to judgments and scrutiny? What if we were really free to be who we want to be, to love who we want to love, and to have the courage to say goodbye to the people or places or things that don’t really serve us. Sometimes living a life of freedom does come with costs.
I can say that I have never really lived a life of conformity. I have respect for the law and rules of society, but I’m talking about a bigger picture. I have made some choices in my life that others may have thought strange. I was judged, lectured to, and sometimes cut loose for making these choices. These choices were about MY life. The choices I made did not hurt anyone. They were legal. I committed no crime. But they were not conventional. I was judged as reckless, irresponsible, possibly air-headed, and maybe even a weirdo. But here is the thing….I had the freedom to choose who I wanted to be, what I wanted to do, what was best for me and my family. I get to choose how I want to live my life and who I want to be in it every single day. Do you? “On the other side of fear lies Freedom”.
I have just recently returned from a COVID Vacation. I had fear and anxiety surrounding my 12-hour car ride from Los Angeles to Utah. I thought about every single thing that could possibly go wrong. Car may brake down, we could have an accident, my dog could get sick, we may get Covid-19 at a gas station along the way. The list could have gone on and on. I don’t beat myself up for having those thoughts. I have always been a bit of a worrier. The difference is, today, I know how to manage those thoughts and fears. I don’t let those thoughts and fears stop me from doing what I really want to do. Those anxieties do have the power to paralyze a situation. But when you have the tools to manage those thoughts it can be the key to living your best life.
On the other side of my fear of what could happen on the road to Utah, was a beautiful vacation spent with my son and my dog. Feeling free from the hard realities of what our world is going through…even just for a moment…to feel happy and free of the stress that our world is presenting to us right now. Perhaps you don’t have any fears about taking a long road trip. Hitting the road may be a breeze for you. But perhaps there is something that you may be longing for in your life. Something that you just can’t reach because of a fear of rejection, failure, disappointment, judgment, or some false belief that is telling you that you can’t. I can help you reach for that. I can help you get there.
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